The Empowr Method: Reclaiming Your Authentic Power

Have you ever felt like you're living your life according to someone else's rules? I discovered the Empowr Method after spending years of my life in a disempowered state, and it transformed everything for me.

What Does It Mean to Be Disempowered?

Being disempowered means giving your power away to someone or something else. This typically shows up as:

• People-pleasing behaviours and constantly seeking external validation

• Following external rules and societal expectations that don't align with your values

• Letting others dictate how your life unfolds rather than making conscious choices

• Chronic indecisiveness and difficulty trusting your own judgment

• Feeling like a victim of circumstances rather than a creator of your experience

Disempowerment can be subtle and insidious. You might find yourself constantly deferring to "experts" rather than tuning into your own wisdom. Or perhaps you're making life decisions based on what will gain approval from others instead of what truly resonates with you.

You can even give your power away to seemingly innocuous sources like the news, social media, or popular opinion. When you accept what you hear as the only truth without questioning or discernment, it becomes your dominant belief, making it difficult to consider alternative perspectives or listen to your own inner guidance.

The most challenging aspect of disempowerment is that it often feels normal because it's what we've always done. We might not even recognise the countless small ways we surrender our power throughout each day—from suppressing our authentic voice in conversations to ignoring our body's signals about what it truly needs.

Our Power Journey

We naturally surrender our power to our parents and caregivers when we're young. But ideally, as we mature and develop self-awareness, we begin taking responsibility for ourselves and wielding our own power in positive ways—both for ourselves and others.

When we don't feel empowered, we often seek power through less constructive means, turning to manipulation and control tactics that rarely lead to positive outcomes.

The Empowr Method Explained

The Empowr Method is about:

1. Recognising where you've surrendered your authentic power

2. Reclaiming that power

3. Navigating life from a position of true authenticity

When we operate from authentic power, life becomes remarkably easier. We enter a flow state where we're not fixated on controlling others or situations. We understand that by simply being in our authentic power, the right people, situations, and events naturally manifest in our lives.

This makes life's journey smoother—with fewer problems, less stress, and more positive encounters.

My Personal Journey

There are varying degrees of power surrender, and some people have given away more than others. In my case, I was severely codependent for much of my life, which led to serious consequences. I made choices to please others that ultimately damaged every aspect of my wellbeing:

Physical health: I ignored my body's signals of exhaustion and pushed myself to burnout to meet others' expectations. I neglected proper nutrition, exercise and rest because I was too busy fulfilling obligations I had taken on to please others.

Mental health: Constant anxiety became my normal state as I worried about disappointing people. My thoughts were consumed with anticipating others' needs rather than processing my own.

Emotional health: I suppressed my true feelings to maintain harmony, leading to emotional numbness and eventually depression. I had no idea what I actually felt because I was so tuned into everyone else's emotions.

Spiritual health: I abandoned my own spiritual practices and beliefs to adopt those that would be acceptable to the people I was trying to please. I lost connection with my inner guidance system and purpose.

The most painful realisation was that in trying to be everything to everyone, I had become almost nothing to myself.

How the EmpowR Method Works

This method guides you through a step-by-step process to:

• Identify where you've given your power away

• Reclaim that power

• Rebuild your life through physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being

It's truly eye-opening to realise how much power we surrender to others—and how extraordinary our lives become when we reclaim our sovereignty. The positive changes that follow can be nothing short of transformative.

Ready to Reclaim Your Power?

If something in this article resonated with you, perhaps you've been giving your power away without even realising it. The journey back to your authentic self doesn't have to be traveled alone. Through my one-on-one coaching practice, I guide clients through the Empowr Method, providing personalised support as you identify where your power has been compromised, helping you reclaim it, and standing beside you as you rebuild your life on your own terms.

I'm committed to helping you rediscover the freedom, joy, and ease that come from living in your authentic power. Your journey to empowerment begins with a single step—recognising that you deserve to live from a place of genuine sovereignty. Are you ready to take back your power?